The holidays are a time for family and tradition. Yet, for families coping with dementia, those things may no longer be possible. The holidays can be difficult for adult children of seniors with dementia. This Christmas is the first since the diagnosis. They may be feeling overwhelmed and uncertain about how to celebrate.
There is no one 'right' way to celebrate Christmas after a dementia diagnosis. Families can choose to do whatever feels most comfortable and meaningful to them. Below are some tips for making the first Christmas after a dementia diagnosis easier.
Understand the Diagnosis
Adult children should understand the dementia diagnosis. Professionals and other family members can give them support. They will need to deal with the emotional impact of the diagnosis and prepare for the holidays. The holiday season can be easier for everyone. Adult children should give their loved ones with dementia a joyous holiday experience.
How to Create a Meaningful Christmas Celebration
Caregivers of seniors with dementia often find themselves struggling during the holiday season. Several strategies can help to make the holiday season more manageable and meaningful.
- Expect potential challenges and plan to deal with them
- Make memories that will last beyond the holidays
- Spend time with your loved one doing things they enjoy
- Capture moments in photographs or videos
Remember that Christmas is only one day. Adult children should focus on their day-to-day tasks and responsibilities.
Keep Traditions Going With Adjustments
Adult children of seniors with a dementia diagnosis must adjust their holiday traditions. Yet, they must keep those traditions going. Some ideas include:
- Making a gingerbread house or other holiday-themed craft
- Watching a Christmas movie
- Playing Christmas music
- Decorating the tree or house
- Having a traditional feast on Christmas day
They can create a new normal by incorporating holiday activities into daily routines.
Create an Environment of Support
Adult children of seniors with dementia should make everyone feel comfortable and welcome. Tips for connecting during the holidays include:
- Planning
- Allowing extra time for activities
- Using visual and verbal cues as reminders
- Assigning tasks to other family members
It's also essential to involve other family members whenever possible. Relatives can discuss a topic of interest with the senior. They can also offer to help with activities that usually overwhelm seniors. If other family members are far, consider video chats and virtual gift exchanges. Finally, when talking about dementia with family and friends, be direct but gentle. Use any available resources and ask for help when necessary.
FAQS About Holiday Preparations for a Parent With Dementia
Should I Take My Parent to Any Family Events?
Yes. You want the seniors to feel their involvement in the activity but not overly so. Refrain from secluding them at the back. Neither should you place them in the middle of the action. Provide them with a quiet place to relax when necessary.
What Should I Do if My Parent Becomes Agitated or Distressed?
- Include quiet times and activities in their routines
- Allow them to feel in control
- Pay attention to their worries and frustrations
- Assure them that you understand them
- Encourage them to take a walk or listen to calm music
Find Support Services and Resources
The holidays can be difficult and emotional for families dealing with dementia. Resources are available to help make coping easier. Non-medical aides from Senior Helpers East Sacramento can support a person with dementia. Services by home aides from Senior Helpers East Sacramento include:
- Companionship
- Help with shopping and cooking
- Transportation to appointments and activities
- Housekeeping
We can customize our services to help reduce stress during the holiday season. Contact us at 916-857-8400 in East Sacramento to schedule a detailed in-home assessment.