I have become so burned out that I can't bear to be around my dad. Any advice?

Submitted By Joe B. - The son of a current Senior Helpers of Tempe Client.

I have been caring for my dad, who moved into an Assisted Living Facility but has had so many issues where I had to step in and be there, and I had be there for so much. He has changed Assisted Living Facilities because his condition was not doing well and he needed more support, and I feel he may end up in a skilled nursing facility. But I am still needing to go see him all the time, even when I put boundaries up. I got to the point where I was so depressed and angry that I can't even be around him. I took a few days, but now I don't know that I can go back and see him, because I feel like he will start to stress me out again. I have spent hours in the hospital with him, taken off work, spent hours with him going to appointments, helping him, staying up late, etc. I just can't do it anymore. He is falling a lot and won't stop making things difficult. I feel guilty but I am not taking care of myself and I hate who I see in the mirror.

Answer:

Joe came to us at wits end and out of options. Senior Helpers was able to step in and help Joe’s father who was at the time living at an AL in the City of Tempe. Despite only having 12 residents and 24/7 nurses the facility was not able to keep Joe’s father happy and safe. One of our wonderful caregivers was able to step in and provide supplemental care for about 6 hours a day. Making sure that he was engaged, eating, stimulated, and enjoy the golden years of his life. Senior Helpers of Tempe provides Senior Care, Only Better.